When They Turn Their Backs

Family! It has been a while since I have shared with you all. Life has seriously been “lifeing” and I had to take a bit of a break family. Charge that to my head and not to my heart. I won’t bore you all with some snazzy intro. Let’s just get right into the meat and potatoes of the message this week. Be sure to share and comment below

I have learned a thing or two in my years of living. One thing that I found out is; that people are either going to like you, or they are not. Simple. I have people who love and respect me and would do anything for me. Then, I have those: if the wind shifts, they turn their backs on me. When times get tough, they tap out. The best thing that I can do for people like that is to continue to pray for them, but also distance myself from them, for my own peace of mind. Dr. Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time”. You can’t help but adhere to sound advice such as this. No, it’s not quoted from the bible, but it doesn’t make the information less useful.

So what is the point of this conversation Tara? I just want you to know that you can’t control the actions of others. The only thing that you have power over is how you respond to it, and how you allow it to make you feel. People are either going to like you, or they are not. Some will start off liking you and then hating your guts down the line. For whatever reason. This could also reign true the other way around. Someone could possibly start off hating your guts, and then become your very best friend. Either way, you don’t have to let their negative feelings about you break your spirit. You are what God says you are and nobody else's opinion matters. 

I have been coming across so many people whose spirits have been broken because of the actions of others. I tell them, that you can't win them all. You can’t force people to feel a certain way about you. The only thing you can do is be you. Be the person that God has called you to be. Pray for them, pray for yourself. Simply pray. Even during those times when you want to cry and call that person and go off, just pray. Pray that God gives you the peace that surpasses all understanding. Including that of your own. It’s easy to feel good when the world is not going crazy. It’s easy to feel confident when everyone in your circle is rooting for you and loves you. But what in the world do you do when the closest people to you turn their backs? Treat you like a stranger in the streets? You keep it moving. You hold your head up and remember that this too didn’t take God by surprise. Keep praying. Ask God to show you, yourself, so you can fix this behavior if you triggered it. But never blame God, or turn your back on him. If anything, cling to him a little tighter because he for sure will never leave you, nor forsake you.